March 2020 Printable Calendar: -The primary reason why most men take this course is to acquire confidence and courage and self-reliance with these March 2020 Printable Calendars. And the one fatal mistake many makes is neglecting to prepare their talks. How can they even hope to subdue the cohorts of fear, the cavalry of nervousness, when they go into the battle with wet powder and blank shells, or with no ammunition at all? Under the circumstances, small wonder that they are not exactly at home before an audience. “I believe,” said Lincoln in the White House, “that I shall never be old enough to speak without embarrassment when I have nothing to say.” If you want confidence, why not do the things necessary to bring it about? Why don’t those enrolled in this course prepare their talks more carefully? Why? Some don’t clearly understand what preparation is nor how to go about is wisely; others plead a lack of time. So we shall discuss these problems rather fully —and we trust lucidly and profitably—in this chapter. What is the preparation? Reading a book? That is one kind, but not the best. Reading may help; but if one attempts to lift a lot of “canned” thoughts out of a book and to give them out immediately as his own, the whole performance will be lacking in something. The audience may not know precisely what is lacking, but they will not warm to the speaker.
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When we start to learn any new thing, like French, or golf, or public speaking, we never advance steadily. We do not improve gradually. We do it by sudden jerks, by abrupt starts. Then we remain stationary a time, or we may even slip back and lose some of the ground we have previously gained. These periods of stagnation, or retrogression, are well known by all psychologists; and they have been named “plateaus in the curve of learning”. Students of public speaking will sometimes be stalled for weeks on one of these plateaus. Work as hard as they may, they cannot get off it. The weak ones give up in despair. Those with grit persist, and they find that suddenly, overnight, without their knowing how or why it has happened, they have made great progress.
They have lifted from the plateau like an airplane. Abruptly they have found the knack of the thing. Abruptly they have acquired naturalness and force and confidence in their speaking. You may always, as we have noted elsewhere in these pages, experience some fleeting fear, some shock, some nervous anxiety the first few moments you face an audience. John Bright felt it to the end of his busy career; so did Gladstone; so did Bishop Wilberforce; so did a score of other eminent speakers. Even the greatest of the musicians have felt it in spite of their innumerable public appearances. Paderewski always fidgeted nervously with his cuffs immediately before he sat down at the piano. Nordica felt her heart racing. So did Sembrich. So did Emma Eames. But it vanished quickly, all of this audience fear, like a mist in the August sunshine. Their experience will be yours. If you will but persevere, you will soon eradicate everything but this initial fear; and that will be initial fear, and nothing more. After the first few sentences, you will have control of yourself. You will be speaking with positive pleasure. A man with an inferior mentality and personality, and with nothing to talk about, is not going to develop into a local Daniel Webster, but, within reason, the assertion is correct.
The entire question of your success as a speaker hinges upon only two things—your native ability, and the depth and strength of your desires. These March 2020 Printable Calendars are an important part of both. I have known and carefully watched literally thousands of men trying to gain self-confidence and the ability to talk in public. Those that succeeded were, in only a few instances, men of unusual brilliancy. For the most part, they were the ordinary run of businessmen that you will find in your own hometown. But they kept on. Smarter men sometimes got discouraged or too deeply immersed in money-making, and they did not get very far, but the ordinary individual with grit and singleness of purpose—at the end of the chapter, he was at the top.
That is only human and natural. Don’t you see the same thing occurring all the time in commerce and the professions? Rockefeller said some time ago that the first essential for success in business was patience. It is likewise one of the first essentials for success in this course.